the list…

mixing it up mixing it up mixing it up mixing it up mixing it up mixing it up mixing it up

Top-Madewell-similar//Skirt-TJ Maxx-similar//Tights-seen here and here//Boots-Shoemint//Necklace-vintage gold chain tied in knot

In the September issue of Glamour in 2005 they ran an article called 30 things you should have and know by the time your 30. 21 year old Mallory poured over this one sheet list again and again. I tore it out and I kept it. I made copies as people in my life turned 30. I thought I was spreading some sort of magical wisdom for them to take into their next decade.

I am now turning 30 in t-3 months. And as I look back reflectively over the last 10 years I think the list has lost a bit of its luster. I have crossed off everything on it-except for a nice umbrella. I never could commit to paying more than $10 for an umbrella that I would inevitably lose. Or break. Or break and then leave in my car for months only to remember it was broken when it rained and I needed it.

So the big question is this-am I ready to turn 30? Have I mastered the 20s? Am I where I thought I would be?
My answers-WHO CARES? I have lived and I have loved, I have made mistakes and I have learned. I have taken adventures and discovered new places. I have married (when this was totally not in 21 year old Mallorys vision), I have grown. I have fought for what I wanted and learned the art of compromise. I have failed on both small and large scales. I have gotten dream jobs and I have been unafraid to quit a good thing. I have taken chances. I have suffered great loss as well as losses that I thought were great at the time. I have had disappointments. I have worn amazing clothes and I have bought the shoes. It was a great 10 years and I wouldn’t change a thing.

So my advice to you-no matter what milestone you are coming upon is this:
Do things you love-the things that make you happy- everyday.

Fall totally in love-with a man (or women), with a dog, with a smell, with a magical city, with a day in time, with a pair of shoes, with the most fabulous of leather jackets, with an old pair of sweatpants, with whatever makes your little heart sing-remind yourself everyday why you love it. Relive the love.

Don’t worry so much about your hair. Some days you are going to win and some days it is going to win. That is just the way life goes. And that is why god (or whoever you’re into) made tops knots and sock buns.

Get outside. Notice just how incredibly awesome the world around you is.

Take pictures and write things down. You will want to remember this.

Don’t worry so much if the scale goes up or the pants are a bit tighter. Just breathe and be healthier today than you were yesterday. Unless you need a cookie. Then eat it. Cause cookies can solve 94% of the world’s problems.

Take adventures. Lots of them. Take land adventures and air adventures and aquatic adventures. Participate in life. Whatever that means to you.

Do new and scary things. And live in that fear for a moment of two. Just marinate in it.

Enjoy every day, every cupcake, every walk, every phone call, every moment of every day.

Most importantly, don’t follow someone else’s list. Make your own, or don’t. Just live amazingly. Oh and wear the striped shirt with the floral skirt. Why the heck not.

Tomorrow I will be a bit briefer. Thanks for hanging with me.

Mal

the time I wore a sweater

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Sweater-Anthropologie// T-shirt-Haute Look sale-sign up here// Jeans-Gap//Sneaker-Converse

I think it is high time I was honest with you all. I love any article of clothing that looks like it would be worn by someone over the age of 86. I love it even more if it is roughly 2 sizes too big. You know what I am talking about here. That perfect oversized chunky knit cardigan that hangs down to your mid thighs. The one you wear over dresses and t-shirts but also, secretly, as a robe on Saturday mornings and at night to take the dog out.

This sweater is like that. Except it was from Anthropologie. I would have been better off hitting up the local thrift store and grabbing one for 3.99 but this one absolutely assaulted me when I walked in to the store. The color is AMAZING. Vibrant and loud. It hung there on the sale rack winking and shimmying at me until I had to come have it. It can pass for a cheery, wintery red or a bright, spring poppy. And it is SO. Stinkin. Snuggly. It feels like I am wrapped in Harvey and that, well that is pretty much is the best day ever.

When I wore this outfit yesterday it was VERY COLD. When I left the house it was 1 degree. Which is just about the rudest temperature there is. This sweater (and the cup of coffee I snagged) soothed my frozen little body all the way to work. And the fact that I wore matching red Converse All stars-well how can anyone have a bad day when that happens.

Happy Wednesday pumpkins!

Mal

the time I wore a crop top…

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Leather Jacket-old-similar// Skirt-BB Dakota-similar this years version here which now I don’t think I can live without// Crop top-KC Boutique-similar on etsy// Boots-seen here and here//Totally amazing necklace-Hautelook sale- Sign up here

We need to talk. I mean seriously. I am turning 30 in a few (like less than two) short months. I am not stressed out about this. My life has been amazing and I assume it will go on being amazing regardless of what number my age starts with. The only thing I worry about is my wardrobe. Does it have to change after the big birthday? Can I still wear jean shorts in the summer? Can I still pull off a mini skirt? Can I still get by with a bikini? Most importantly do I have to forgo the 2014 crop top trend?

I haven’t figured out the answers to any of these yet. So I decided to go ahead and jump on the crop top train before the birthday, you know, just in case. This crop is actually a yoga shirt. I love a multi purpose item. I have worn super casually for yoga but I also love it just as much with a silk maxi. Now that is one heck of a two-for (read toofur).

It’s true you can’t actually see any skin in this crop, but it is still winter, and 30 is still breathing down my neck. But the only thing I like about rules is breaking them. So don’t be too surprised when I show up on here and in your real life in a true crop top with skin and all well after said birthday. Cause why the heck not.

Have a beautiful day. Break some rules!

Mal

Cozy is the new black…

Plain Jane Plain Jane Plain Jane Plain Jane Plain Jane Plain Jane Plain Jane Plain Jane

Flannel-Ralph Lauren-similar//Jeans-Lauren Conrad-similar//Belt-Target//Boots-Aldo-similar

Sometimes getting dressed really gets the best of me. I love clothes so much, I love putting outfits together so much, I love trying new combinations so much that once in a while (like most days) I get a bit carried away. I want to layer, I want a tall sock, I want amazing jewelry, maybe even a scarf, I want textured tights and I want to mix prints and sometimes it all becomes too much.

I forget sometimes the beauty of a simple flannel and jeans. I forget that you can look amazing in something so simple. I forget the joy of an undisturbed pair of red boots. I forget how nice my neck feels when it doesn’t have to hold up a scarf or a pendant necklace for the most of the day. I forget that some days you just feel like being a little less showy and a little more cozy.

Last week I had some errands to run. I didn’t have to be anywhere spectacular, just running around town, doing a bit of shopping, enjoying my afternoon. And when I went to get dressed I threw on this flannel with a leopard print cashmere over top and an amazing black pendant necklace, a fabulous pleated green skirt, black tights and over the knee boots. I looked cute. I looked stylish. I looked fabulous even. But I also looked uncomfortable. Yes, fashion sometimes does mean suffering for fabulousness and I am all for a pair of 5 inch ‘dinner only’ heels that make my legs look like Giselle rather then a korgi. But for errands on a Thursday-did I really need it all?
So I changed. And I was happy. And warm. And cozy. And I still looked cute. And I still mixed prints. And I still felt pretty darn fabulous. Sometimes too much is just, well, too much. Even when a toned down version of ourselves includes red boots, floral jeans, a flannel and a leopard print belt.

What is your favorite cozy-yet stylish look?

Mal

the time I didn’t want to get dressed…

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Flannel Tunic- old boutique find-similar// Puffer-Old Navy//Tights-Spanx// Boots-seen here and here// Sunnies-Raybans

You know the days when you wake up and you have to be somewhere and you wonder if you could get away with a pajama pant and a thermal top and an Ugg slipper as long as your hair and make up are done? I tried it once. Apparently people notice. Which was kind of rude.

This outfit was my answer to the “I am absolutely not getting dressed today” temper tantrum. Flannel Tunic (that looks suspiciously like a pajama top, hmmm)-check, fleece lined puffer vest-check, motorcycle boots that I have worn literally every single day for the last two weeks because OMG it needs to be spring so my feet can breath-check.

Some days I wish I were Harvey (the handsome devil running around the in the pics above), he just rolls off his Tempurpedic doggie bed each morning, gets his belly scrubbed by his humans, throws on his favorite, fanciest bowtie and goes about his day. Oh, and EVERYONE is impressed.

Until then, I suppose my oversized flannel shirt will have to do…

What is your go to-I don’t want to wear anything but I have to-outfit?

Until the next outfit,

Mal

 

the time I wore a blazer

LOVE mad about plaid red and plaid plaid rear view Blazer Blazer Blazer Plaid Plaid Blazer Plaid Blazer

Blazer-H&M oldsimilar// Dress-Forever 21 old-similar// Tights-Spanx// Boots-Steve Madden seen here// Red Scarf-street vendor NYC-similar// Red bangles-Charming Charlies old-similar

Sometimes I walk into a store and buy a blazer. I have no idea why. I am SO NOT a girl who wears a blazer. I think they make me look like a child playing dress up. They don’t allow for many activities what with them being so restrictive in the arms. They make me look so businessy. Yet, somehow I see them and want them in my closet.

This little plaid number called to me on one of my first trips to H&M years ago. With its adorable elbow patches and great neutral palette I thought FOR SURE I would find a home for it in my repertoire. FALSE. I have literally never worn it. Not once. I have tried it on. I have worked outfits around it. And yet every time I decide it’s just too serious for my liking.

That is until I put it over my little $8 leopard print dress. I mean if leopard print can’t save a plaid blazer with elbow patches nothing will. I promise you.

But I think it may have worked. I might even wear it again. Maybe. But really probably not. I mean unless I have to go to a job interview or court or something.

The time I wore a sequined skirt

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leather jacket

Jacket-Steve Madden old-similar// Sweater-JCrew old-similar// Skirt-Macys old-similar// Boots-Chinese Laundry
I hate buying pieces of clothing you can only wear once. That was my first lie. I love it. I have always bought new dresses for every wedding I have attended. I go in search of a new outfit for big meetings and job interviews. I love the specialness, the newness, the fabulousness of a special event article of clothing. Unfortunately then realty sets in the next day when I realize I spent HOW MUCH on a tulle dress that is totally inappropriate for any other event in my life. Ever. Oh and also, apparently not super conducive to a happy marriage. Single Girl Behavior.

SO my new challenge has become repurposing special event clothing into every day outfits. I have started taking some of my party dresses out on the town with a jean jacket and Toms, I have thrown my sequined jacket over a plain white t-shirt and motorcycle boots, I even wore a floor length silk skirt with a crop top the other day-but we will get into that more tomorrow.

This past week I promised this gold sequined skirt a trip out of the closet. Some way some how I was going to make it work. In the evening, paired with a black tank and heels it is a star, but today I just needed it to be a skirt. The heart sweater and over the knee boots bring it down a notch and make it almost acceptable for daytime. Yes, I got a few strange looks for wearing a skirt covered in sequins to lunch, but hey, if we didn’t want to get noticed we would all wear sweat suits right?

So Joel, if you’re reading this, I will never buy a one wear item of clothing ever again. Ok, that is my second lie..

Mal