In the September issue of Glamour in 2005 they ran an article called 30 things you should have and know by the time your 30. 21 year old Mallory poured over this one sheet list again and again. I tore it out and I kept it. I made copies as people in my life turned 30. I thought I was spreading some sort of magical wisdom for them to take into their next decade.
I am now turning 30 in t-3 months. And as I look back reflectively over the last 10 years I think the list has lost a bit of its luster. I have crossed off everything on it-except for a nice umbrella. I never could commit to paying more than $10 for an umbrella that I would inevitably lose. Or break. Or break and then leave in my car for months only to remember it was broken when it rained and I needed it.
So the big question is this-am I ready to turn 30? Have I mastered the 20s? Am I where I thought I would be?
My answers-WHO CARES? I have lived and I have loved, I have made mistakes and I have learned. I have taken adventures and discovered new places. I have married (when this was totally not in 21 year old Mallorys vision), I have grown. I have fought for what I wanted and learned the art of compromise. I have failed on both small and large scales. I have gotten dream jobs and I have been unafraid to quit a good thing. I have taken chances. I have suffered great loss as well as losses that I thought were great at the time. I have had disappointments. I have worn amazing clothes and I have bought the shoes. It was a great 10 years and I wouldn’t change a thing.
So my advice to you-no matter what milestone you are coming upon is this:
Do things you love-the things that make you happy- everyday.
Fall totally in love-with a man (or women), with a dog, with a smell, with a magical city, with a day in time, with a pair of shoes, with the most fabulous of leather jackets, with an old pair of sweatpants, with whatever makes your little heart sing-remind yourself everyday why you love it. Relive the love.
Don’t worry so much about your hair. Some days you are going to win and some days it is going to win. That is just the way life goes. And that is why god (or whoever you’re into) made tops knots and sock buns.
Get outside. Notice just how incredibly awesome the world around you is.
Take pictures and write things down. You will want to remember this.
Take adventures. Lots of them. Take land adventures and air adventures and aquatic adventures. Participate in life. Whatever that means to you.
Do new and scary things. And live in that fear for a moment of two. Just marinate in it.
Enjoy every day, every cupcake, every walk, every phone call, every moment of every day.
Most importantly, don’t follow someone else’s list. Make your own, or don’t. Just live amazingly. Oh and wear the striped shirt with the floral skirt. Why the heck not.
Tomorrow I will be a bit briefer. Thanks for hanging with me.