the time I got back in the saddle

IMG_9756Ok, ok, ok… I know I have been absolutely MIA. And i would love to say that I am very busy, or very important or was asked to save the world or at least review the satellite maps in search of Malaysia flight 370. But all of these things would be ranging from sort of true to out and out lies so instead I will just say I am sorry. I am back. Let’s not dwell on it.

Some things that have happened in the past week:

I finished season 4 of LOST. I can’t help but think this is the best piece of television I have watched since the first two seasons of the OC. I am only kind of kidding.

I did some awesome yoga.

I hung out with Harvey and Joel.

I turned 30.

And no, I am not upset about it. But it did get me thinking. So last year was a bit wild. We moved. A lot. We lived in my parents basement and out of suitcases. I quit my job. I started a boutique. Joel switched jobs. Harvey got a new bed. A lot happened. And through it all my joy got a kinda lost. Not to say I was unhappy, I was just busy and didn’t take time out everyday to look around and realize that life is pretty effing awesome. That the world it pretty amazing. That everyday, even the ones spent watching LOST marathons or aggravated or in our jammies, are absolutely beautiful. What I will say about turning 30 is that I don’t want another year to pass with me slightly below the surface of life. Living it but not seeing the everyday clearly. So for the next year, the year of 30, I am going to do some stuff. I mean scary, awesome, real living stuff. Specifically I am going to do 30 things.  And I ask you to join me. You can follow along with the journey and check out my growing list here. Oh and if you have something that you think i HAVE to do, email me. I will add it to the list.

Let’s live and be awesome.

xxx

Mal

the list…

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Top-Madewell-similar//Skirt-TJ Maxx-similar//Tights-seen here and here//Boots-Shoemint//Necklace-vintage gold chain tied in knot

In the September issue of Glamour in 2005 they ran an article called 30 things you should have and know by the time your 30. 21 year old Mallory poured over this one sheet list again and again. I tore it out and I kept it. I made copies as people in my life turned 30. I thought I was spreading some sort of magical wisdom for them to take into their next decade.

I am now turning 30 in t-3 months. And as I look back reflectively over the last 10 years I think the list has lost a bit of its luster. I have crossed off everything on it-except for a nice umbrella. I never could commit to paying more than $10 for an umbrella that I would inevitably lose. Or break. Or break and then leave in my car for months only to remember it was broken when it rained and I needed it.

So the big question is this-am I ready to turn 30? Have I mastered the 20s? Am I where I thought I would be?
My answers-WHO CARES? I have lived and I have loved, I have made mistakes and I have learned. I have taken adventures and discovered new places. I have married (when this was totally not in 21 year old Mallorys vision), I have grown. I have fought for what I wanted and learned the art of compromise. I have failed on both small and large scales. I have gotten dream jobs and I have been unafraid to quit a good thing. I have taken chances. I have suffered great loss as well as losses that I thought were great at the time. I have had disappointments. I have worn amazing clothes and I have bought the shoes. It was a great 10 years and I wouldn’t change a thing.

So my advice to you-no matter what milestone you are coming upon is this:
Do things you love-the things that make you happy- everyday.

Fall totally in love-with a man (or women), with a dog, with a smell, with a magical city, with a day in time, with a pair of shoes, with the most fabulous of leather jackets, with an old pair of sweatpants, with whatever makes your little heart sing-remind yourself everyday why you love it. Relive the love.

Don’t worry so much about your hair. Some days you are going to win and some days it is going to win. That is just the way life goes. And that is why god (or whoever you’re into) made tops knots and sock buns.

Get outside. Notice just how incredibly awesome the world around you is.

Take pictures and write things down. You will want to remember this.

Don’t worry so much if the scale goes up or the pants are a bit tighter. Just breathe and be healthier today than you were yesterday. Unless you need a cookie. Then eat it. Cause cookies can solve 94% of the world’s problems.

Take adventures. Lots of them. Take land adventures and air adventures and aquatic adventures. Participate in life. Whatever that means to you.

Do new and scary things. And live in that fear for a moment of two. Just marinate in it.

Enjoy every day, every cupcake, every walk, every phone call, every moment of every day.

Most importantly, don’t follow someone else’s list. Make your own, or don’t. Just live amazingly. Oh and wear the striped shirt with the floral skirt. Why the heck not.

Tomorrow I will be a bit briefer. Thanks for hanging with me.

Mal

the time I wore a crop top…

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Leather Jacket-old-similar// Skirt-BB Dakota-similar this years version here which now I don’t think I can live without// Crop top-KC Boutique-similar on etsy// Boots-seen here and here//Totally amazing necklace-Hautelook sale- Sign up here

We need to talk. I mean seriously. I am turning 30 in a few (like less than two) short months. I am not stressed out about this. My life has been amazing and I assume it will go on being amazing regardless of what number my age starts with. The only thing I worry about is my wardrobe. Does it have to change after the big birthday? Can I still wear jean shorts in the summer? Can I still pull off a mini skirt? Can I still get by with a bikini? Most importantly do I have to forgo the 2014 crop top trend?

I haven’t figured out the answers to any of these yet. So I decided to go ahead and jump on the crop top train before the birthday, you know, just in case. This crop is actually a yoga shirt. I love a multi purpose item. I have worn super casually for yoga but I also love it just as much with a silk maxi. Now that is one heck of a two-for (read toofur).

It’s true you can’t actually see any skin in this crop, but it is still winter, and 30 is still breathing down my neck. But the only thing I like about rules is breaking them. So don’t be too surprised when I show up on here and in your real life in a true crop top with skin and all well after said birthday. Cause why the heck not.

Have a beautiful day. Break some rules!

Mal