the time I was Kelly Kapowski

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I have always had a thing for Kelly Kapowski. As a brunette unwilling to ever lighten my hair, the role models were few and far between. Apparently our hair color makes us really exceptional side kicks ready to join any adventure but totally inadequate at hosting our own. Kelly was the freaking star and she was amazing and wonderful and she got the guy in the end and she taught me so many vital lessons during my youth (and occasionally on present day Saturday mornings when Joel and I are bored). And she did all of this as a brunette. And usually in a high waisted skirt and Keds. Or a matching floral crop top and denim. Or in light wash ripped jeans.

Which leads us to this little number in which i was apparently channeling her. The sweater and lace tank are such a cute combo. The shoes were a Top Shop find on their opening weekend in NYC-aka the worst day to enter Top Shop EVER. But these jeans… these jeans are rocking my whole world right now. I love them. I want to wear them every day. I have tried. I even tried to wear them to Joel’s hometown of Concordia, Missouri. It’s a lovely place. If you haven’t been I would suggest a drive through. It’s a small town meant for a Lifetime Movie. I am sure there are some Kapowski fans there, however, when i slipped these ripped up little beauties on Joel suggested I change. He didn’t think Concordia would understand the purchase of pre-destroyed jeans much less revel in their amazingness. Maybe next year.

So for now these jeans will be confined to Kansas City. And I will try to wear them only every other day. Until my floral crop top and matching denim arrives of course.

xo

Mal

the time I lied…

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Sweater-@jolly’s//Denim shirt-JC Penny-similar//T-shirt-Forever 21-old fun graphic t here//Camo Jeans-Gap-sold out-similar//Boots-Shoemint-old similar here//Bracelets-PuraVida-I want one of each!!!

I want to tell you all a story about this London Love t-shirt. I want to reminisce about the last time I was in London. I want to talk about the pop up vintage markets and Portobello market. I want to tell an amazing story about pouring over each and every booth of these markets and the things I found. I want to talk about the food I ate and the smells I smelled. I so badly want this shirt to be a  memorial of an amazing adventure that Joel and I were so lucky to take. I want this t-shirt to have history and meaning and I want the story to be sparkly and captivating. I want to wear this shirt to dinner parties and evenings out where said story would be retold and the shirt would be worn as a badge of my fashion findings honor.

But that would all be a steaming pile of… well… lies. This shirt is from the overly produced racks of Forever 21. It is one of millions. It is as generic as they come. And for the first two weeks after I bought it I told Joel it was from a street vendor in London. I was shopping shamed. But I still love the shirt. And it still makes me think of the wonderful trips we have taken London. And it still makes me smile. Even if it is from Forever 21.

The real story of our last trip to London- I shopping choked. I found an amazing Cath Kidston bag, a perfect dress from Liberty of London featuring their famous tiny floral print,  the most beautiful hand made leather jacket and an absolutely gorgeous cashmere capelet and with each find more outstanding and deserving of my shopping budget than the last I choked. I couldn’t pull the trigger and ended up coming home with nothing more than a pair of jeans from Primark (A European Forever 21) and regret. All the more reason to plan a trip back I suppose. Right Joel?

xo

Mal

the time it was Friday

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It’s funny and awesome and strange that Friday is still as amazing and alluring and wonderful as it was when I was 6. I love Fridays. Usually they are uneventful involving an early dinner with my parents or something ordered in here at home with Joel followed by both of us falling asleep in front of the TV well before 10pm. But Friday is still like the high five of week days. You know you have made it. You know you get a break. You know that you get some downtime. And  you might even have a weekend adventure.

Today I am especially excited. Because starting tomorrow I can finally shop again. And wear all my own clothes again. And share a pair of jeans that I bought at the tail end of January with all of you. This no shopping thing has been good. I have learned that I don’t in fact need something new to wear every single day. That occasionally my preexisting wardrobe can perform pretty well with out accompaniment. That online shopping counts as shopping also. And that I have way too much clothing as is. Oh, and that shopping is in fact my cardio…

So, for March, although I am not going to be ‘not shopping’ I am going to try a little something else. I am going to try to buy things I need rather than want (and let me tell you when I want something I  can get really crafty with reasons I need it). I am going to only add things to my wardrobe that are versatile and really flipping amazing. And for every single item I add to my wardrobe in March, one thing has to vacate the premises. Yup, my closet is going to be like the hottest night club in town. One in one out. You know, except with clothes.

Wish me luck. Oh and tomorrow morning, as soon as the department store doors open, I am buying those shoes.

xo

Mal

The time I wore zippers upon zippers…

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Sweater-Target seen here //Skirt-TJ Maxx-similar //Tights-old similar //Boots-Shoemint SOLD OUT similar //Coat-old similar// Hat-AWESOME here

Well, it’s Monday again. It seems no matter how many insults you throw its way, not matter how much you avoid it and ignore it’s very existence it just keeps showing up. Every week. However, one of my New Years Resolutions (read more about my thoughts on them here) was to embrace  Mondays or at least not be such a flipping slave to them.

So this Monday I am wearing a skirt ($12.99), some fun textured tights, and a great pair of boots. Because if there has to be a monday you might as well dress for it. The sweater has already made its debut in the 30 day $300 challenge (more here) and I am loving how versatile it has proven to be.

This Monday I am going to come out victorious. I am getting a lot of work done, I am hanging with Harvey who happens to be following my lead wearing a very fancy bow tie this Monday, I am headed to a new found favorite yoga class this evening with a good friend. The Bachelor is on this evening and I plan on wearing this hot pink stocking cap throughout all of my daily activities.

Total cost: Sweater:$11.00 //Skirt: $12.99//Hat:$3.99 Total:$27.98

Make your Monday absolutely amazing.

Mal

the time I had to go outside

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Flannel-Target//Sweater-Target//Jeans-American Eagle//Boots-Born old//Parka-Lands End because that what this has come to…

So for those of you not residing in KC, we got some snow. Like a lot of snow. Like 10+ inches of snow. And no one had to go to work, or run errands or even leave their house. It was amazing. Like 2 straight Christmas Days. And then it ended. Apparently the streets are clear and the time has come for us to all re-enter the world. But the snow is not gone. And the temperatures are not warmer and I don’t wanna.

But I must. I think I am forgetting how to interact with the human race (outside of Joel and Harvey). And we are out of milk. And Chocolate Ale was delivered to my local grocer this morning. And Macy’s is having a sale. That I can’t even participate in. Because I am not shopping for 30 days. So I will focus on the Chocolate Ale. Yum.

In any means dressing for this kind of cold is challenging. Especially when you are taking pictures of yourself and showing them to the world  interwebs. And even more so when you have limited your very vast wardrobe to a much smaller and less expensive set of clothes. But I faced the windchill and fashion won and I didn’t even have to use any animal prints.

The sweater and flannel were both Target sale rack finds and the skinnies were purchased on an American Eagle super sale just for this project. However, these jeans are so stinkin comfortable and fit so nicely that I may have to revisit their jean department. (You know, in 26 days) Watch out tweens: 30 year olds everywhere are going to storm American Eagles in search of these super soft, stretchy and oh-so-affordable jeans.

Total Cost: Flannel-$13//Sweater-$11//Denim-$20

Stay warm and fabulous. Until tomorrow darlings.

Mal

the list…

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Top-Madewell-similar//Skirt-TJ Maxx-similar//Tights-seen here and here//Boots-Shoemint//Necklace-vintage gold chain tied in knot

In the September issue of Glamour in 2005 they ran an article called 30 things you should have and know by the time your 30. 21 year old Mallory poured over this one sheet list again and again. I tore it out and I kept it. I made copies as people in my life turned 30. I thought I was spreading some sort of magical wisdom for them to take into their next decade.

I am now turning 30 in t-3 months. And as I look back reflectively over the last 10 years I think the list has lost a bit of its luster. I have crossed off everything on it-except for a nice umbrella. I never could commit to paying more than $10 for an umbrella that I would inevitably lose. Or break. Or break and then leave in my car for months only to remember it was broken when it rained and I needed it.

So the big question is this-am I ready to turn 30? Have I mastered the 20s? Am I where I thought I would be?
My answers-WHO CARES? I have lived and I have loved, I have made mistakes and I have learned. I have taken adventures and discovered new places. I have married (when this was totally not in 21 year old Mallorys vision), I have grown. I have fought for what I wanted and learned the art of compromise. I have failed on both small and large scales. I have gotten dream jobs and I have been unafraid to quit a good thing. I have taken chances. I have suffered great loss as well as losses that I thought were great at the time. I have had disappointments. I have worn amazing clothes and I have bought the shoes. It was a great 10 years and I wouldn’t change a thing.

So my advice to you-no matter what milestone you are coming upon is this:
Do things you love-the things that make you happy- everyday.

Fall totally in love-with a man (or women), with a dog, with a smell, with a magical city, with a day in time, with a pair of shoes, with the most fabulous of leather jackets, with an old pair of sweatpants, with whatever makes your little heart sing-remind yourself everyday why you love it. Relive the love.

Don’t worry so much about your hair. Some days you are going to win and some days it is going to win. That is just the way life goes. And that is why god (or whoever you’re into) made tops knots and sock buns.

Get outside. Notice just how incredibly awesome the world around you is.

Take pictures and write things down. You will want to remember this.

Don’t worry so much if the scale goes up or the pants are a bit tighter. Just breathe and be healthier today than you were yesterday. Unless you need a cookie. Then eat it. Cause cookies can solve 94% of the world’s problems.

Take adventures. Lots of them. Take land adventures and air adventures and aquatic adventures. Participate in life. Whatever that means to you.

Do new and scary things. And live in that fear for a moment of two. Just marinate in it.

Enjoy every day, every cupcake, every walk, every phone call, every moment of every day.

Most importantly, don’t follow someone else’s list. Make your own, or don’t. Just live amazingly. Oh and wear the striped shirt with the floral skirt. Why the heck not.

Tomorrow I will be a bit briefer. Thanks for hanging with me.

Mal

Cozy is the new black…

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Flannel-Ralph Lauren-similar//Jeans-Lauren Conrad-similar//Belt-Target//Boots-Aldo-similar

Sometimes getting dressed really gets the best of me. I love clothes so much, I love putting outfits together so much, I love trying new combinations so much that once in a while (like most days) I get a bit carried away. I want to layer, I want a tall sock, I want amazing jewelry, maybe even a scarf, I want textured tights and I want to mix prints and sometimes it all becomes too much.

I forget sometimes the beauty of a simple flannel and jeans. I forget that you can look amazing in something so simple. I forget the joy of an undisturbed pair of red boots. I forget how nice my neck feels when it doesn’t have to hold up a scarf or a pendant necklace for the most of the day. I forget that some days you just feel like being a little less showy and a little more cozy.

Last week I had some errands to run. I didn’t have to be anywhere spectacular, just running around town, doing a bit of shopping, enjoying my afternoon. And when I went to get dressed I threw on this flannel with a leopard print cashmere over top and an amazing black pendant necklace, a fabulous pleated green skirt, black tights and over the knee boots. I looked cute. I looked stylish. I looked fabulous even. But I also looked uncomfortable. Yes, fashion sometimes does mean suffering for fabulousness and I am all for a pair of 5 inch ‘dinner only’ heels that make my legs look like Giselle rather then a korgi. But for errands on a Thursday-did I really need it all?
So I changed. And I was happy. And warm. And cozy. And I still looked cute. And I still mixed prints. And I still felt pretty darn fabulous. Sometimes too much is just, well, too much. Even when a toned down version of ourselves includes red boots, floral jeans, a flannel and a leopard print belt.

What is your favorite cozy-yet stylish look?

Mal